HOW COMPATIBLE ARE YOU AND YOUR DATE?
Personality Quiz
For each question check one of the two choices.
Please note: you may feel you want to check both but please try to pick your
first reaction (without analyzing it). Even if it is hard, to choose try to pick
an answer for each question. There are no right or wrong answers, only
personality differences.
SECTION #1 When I’ve had a stressful day I
prefer
___A. Quietly unwinding
___B. Being with friends
When I’m upset the first thing I want to do is
___A. Think it through
___B. Vent to several people
SECTION #2 If I’m trying to find out about
something, I concentrate my efforts on
___A. Making sense of all the pieces
___B. Reviewing the facts
I tend to look at
___A. The big picture
___B. The details
SECTION #3 When I’m deciding how to handle an
issue I think it is most important to consider
___A. How it will affect others
___B. How logical it is
Which would my friends be more likely to call
me?
___A. Emotional
___B. Intellectual
SECTION #4 When there is a job to do I usually
___A. Have a specific way I like to
do it
___B. Do it however I reasonably can
People would probably call me
___A. Organized/planner
___B. Relaxed/spontaneous Scoring:
Add up the number of “A” choices or “B” choices
for each SECTION.
SECTION #1 2 A’s=Private Personality 2 B’s =
Outgoing Personality (1 A & 1B = inconclusive)
SECTION #2 2 A’s = Instinctive Personality 2
B’s = Detailed Personality (1 A & 1 B = inconclusive)
SECTION #3 2 A’s = Heart Personality 2 B’s =
Head Personality (1 A & 1 B = inconclusive)
SECTION #4 2 A’s = Planner Personality 2 B’s =
Adapter Personality (1 A and 1 B = inconclusive)
List your four personality traits; then read
below to see what they mean.
INTERPRETATION:
I. Your personality:
SECTION #1 measures where you get your energy:
Private people tend to get refreshed by being alone (example a walk in the
woods) Outgoing people tend to be re-energized by being with others
SECTION #2 Measures how you gather information:
Instinctive people pay close attention to what is not said, to tone of voice and
other clues. They may seem “psychic” because they sense what they can’t explain.
They tend to be interested in ideas and concepts. They “see the forest.” Detail
people pay more attention to what they can see, hear, touch, smell, taste and
feel. It something cannot be measured, counted, etc. and observed with the
senses, it may seem less real. They “see the trees.”
SECTION #3: Reflects how we make decisions:
Heart people pay more attention to their feelings and the feelings of others.
Head people pay more attention to what seems reasonable, logical and smart.
SECTION #4. Reflects how you use time. Planners
have high standards for how things “should” be done and they like to know what
they are doing when. If they are going to a restaurant they want a reservation.
Adapters like to keep all their options open and see what they feel like doing
when the time comes. And they may change plans on the spur of the moment if
“better offer” comes along.
Once you have figured out your own personality,
ask your date to fill out the questionnaire, too. Or, fill it out as best you
can, based on what you know about them and refer to the above description to
understand how they react to their world.
II. How Your Differences Can Affect Your
Relationship.
SECTION #1. Where your differences may clash:
The Private person may be annoyed that the Outgoing person is always pressuring
them to go out or have friends over. The Outgoing person may complain that the
Private person is no fun or, worse, feel rejected when he/she wants to be alone.
But they are good for each other, too. Because a Private person can help the
Outgoing person relax and get in touch with themselves; and the Outgoing person
can help the Private person be more sociable.
SECTION #2. Where your differences may clash:
An Instinctive person can drive a Detailed person crazy because Instinctives may
seem absent minded or like dreamers. A Detailed person may annoy an Instinctive
person because the detailed person can get lost in the details and seem too
literal and not creative. But they are good for each other, too. Instinctive
people often notice important nuances that the detailed miss. And the Detailed
person is often much more practical and helps life run smoother by remembering
to put gas in the car, for instance.
SECTION #3. Where your differences may clash:
Heart people may accuse Head people of being “heartless” or insensitive.” Head
people may accuse Heart people of being too sentimental and weak. They can also
be good for each other because some decisions are usually best made from looking
at the facts, example finances; whereas others, such as family relationships,
usually need more concern for feelings.
SECTION #4. Where your differences may clash:
Planners are often annoyed with an Adapter because Adapters do not do things
“right” or thoroughly and because they “never plan ahead.” Adapters often feel
criticized and accused of being lazy and unorganized. They can be good for each
other too. Planners can help life run smoother and Adapters can help planners be
spontaneous and have more fun.
None of these personality types are right or
wrong. But if you are totally different on more than two of these four
personality areas you may want to be cautious about marrying this person.
This is just a very quick introduction to
personality differences based on the Myers/Briggs personality inventory. It is
not meant to be definitive.
